Determined to be a better husband and father, Shane’s health journey is about more than weight.
265 lb. Carrying that for most of my adult life has been hard enough. But, the heavier load has been the things people can’t see - the health concerns and emotional strain that come with it.
At 49 years old, I look back on a life full of challenges and blessings. A marriage that ended in separation, raising 5 wonderful kids as a solo father, packing up everything and starting again in a new country, finding my soul-mate.
Throughout it all, my health has taken the brunt of the hard-times. I’ve stress eaten to get by and learned to live with a body that never really felt like mine.
Worse still, health concerns caused by my weight put my family’s happiness in jeopardy. It’s a hard thing, to go through so much for the people you love, only to risk it due to a lifetime of poor health choices.
In my case, the doctors told me I had a dangerous build-up of visceral (or internal) fat around my kidneys and heart. If I wanted to grow old with my wife and play with my grandchildren, things had to change.
But how? I had tried everything and spent thousands to control my weight. The meal replacement shakes delivered short-term gains, but I just wasn’t built for a liquid diet and couldn’t sustain it in the long-run. I was all over the place on the Atkins diet. One week I would feel confident that I was finally on track, only to see no results and feel irritable and hungry the next.
Paleo and the Ketogenic diet weren’t much better. Understanding the science behind the diets and reshaping my schedules and shopping list, that I could do. Where I struggled was in the constant battle against hunger and cravings. Put simply, I didn’t have the willpower to completely cut out my favorite foods and sugar.
The hardest part was letting down my wife after all her motivation and optimism. That one hurt.
On May 6, 2018, a friend of mine casually mentioned that he had seen a new, all-natural weight management supplement on a primetime news show. Together we found the calocurb website. I was intrigued, deeply skeptical but looking for something, anything, to help. What did I have to lose right? I made my first order on the spot.
The next few months have changed my life.
On the surface, I’ve lost 44 lb. It’s been a slow, steady loss – around 4 lb a week. But honestly, the weight represents only a small part of the transformation I’ve experienced. The real change is my mindset.
I’m future-focused like never before. Where I used to feel trapped by my weight, I now see each choice as an act of commitment to my family, my wife and to me. I’ve finally found the willpower to build a better life out of the hundreds of little choices I make everyday.
The list of things I’ve changed is long. I’ve replaced coffee with green or ginger tea and have cut out the mochaccinos. I’ve swapped out fries for salads, drink less alcohol and I’ve got my sugar cravings under control.
Case in point, I absolutely love Ferrero Rocher chocolates. For the last week there have been a dozen sitting in the kitchen cupboard. A few months ago, they wouldn’t have lasted a day. Now, they’re still there – one or two a night is enough for me.
Healthier food choices are just the foundation when it comes to building a healthier me.
I’m exercising regularly again – walking and weight training after years off. I’m taking it to the next level and even starting a strength training program at the gym. I’m also realizing that health and happiness go hand-in-hand. This sense of energy and optimism I feel has improved my most important relationships. The way I talk to my children has changed - I’m more of the positive, supportive Dad I want to be. The same goes for my wife and friends.
The change I’ve gone through has been profound to say the least, but I want to be clear about this – it’s not all down to calocurb. The transformation has taken work – lot’s of it. When I tell people about calocurb, I describe it as a tool, a helping-hand to kick-start this cycle of better food choices, exercise and optimism. You have to want the lifestyle change and be prepared to make sacrifices for it – with or without calocurb.
I also want to encourage those just starting out with calocurb to stick with it. Alongside the immediate effect on my appetite, I also experienced some heartburn for the first few days before my health journey began.
I have a destination in mind for this health journey too – a date.
On April 1, 2019 I will turn 50 years old. On that day I will weigh 187 lb. That’s my promise to my family, to wife and to myself.
It’s a promise I’m going to keep.